Elevate Your Potential Magazine – Single Moms’ Self-Worth
What is your worth? Quite often as single moms, we don’t receive the praise we deserve, the celebration we desire, or the acceptance we crave. All of those contribute to your sense of worth.
Do you preface what you say with, “Not to sound bad,” “If I were _______(smarter, more educated, etc),” or “I feel so fat?” You are doing a
disservice to yourself by not giving yourself enough credit. You don’t know what the other person is thinking, so when you say, “Not to sound bad,” they may now think it does sound that way. Whereas before, it would have never occurred to them.
Stop Judging Yourself
You are smart, educated, pretty, experienced, so don’t suggest to people you aren’t. You’re making a judgment on yourself that they most likely never thought about. None of us single moms feel good all the time, but there is no need to feel fat in anything. If you don’t feel comfortable in something, then get rid of it.
Don’t keep an outfit or shoes around that you feel bad about. If you love it, keep it. If it’s just okay, get rid of it. You only want to wear the stuff you feel good in, because it increases your self esteem (which increases your self worth) every time you wear it.
You are worth more than that. You deserve more than that. You are an amazing woman, and you matter. Don’t undervalue yourself. All the statements you use to preface what you’re about to say, undervalues you. It chips away at your self-esteem…over and over, until you don’t feel worthy.
It’s a defense mechanism we use, so we can say it before others do. I’ve caught myself doing the same thing before, “Oh my face is so broken out.” That way the other person doesn’t need to point it out to me. I’ve acknowledged it.
When the other person mentions it before we get a chance to do so, we are caught off guard and then feel defensive and extremely insecure. Many times we allow this one incident, this one comment to stay with us for the rest of the day. We think about it, ponder on it, and wonder if they are really right. In essence, we allow it to “ruin” our day. So we get to it first by mentioning it just to get it out of the way.
What we’re really doing is pointing out flaws, when others probably don’t see those at all or don’t see them as flaws. So stop prefacing what you want to say. If someone has a negative comment, smile to them, don’t dwell on it, and realize the comment is more about them than it is you.
Be True to Who You Are
I’ve learned to tell myself the same thing, That’s more about them than it is about me. Yes, I actually say it out loud to reiterate it to myself. It’s about their insecurities, uncertainties, and self-confidence. It’s their defense mechanism, so they don’t get hurt. When we let down our walls and be true to who we are, others are able to do the same. It takes one person to start though. When you take the first step to do that, it increases your self-confidence, which directly affects your self-worth. When you know you are worth more, you’ll stop prefacing your sentences with negative thoughts.
Everything you do, have, and accomplish in life is in direct proportion to your self-worth. If it’s low, get out there and talk to others. Be vulnerable. Be alive. Let down your guard. Others will see your true value, which will then increase your worth. Keep doing this time and time again, and before you know it, your self-worth will be exactly where it should be…where you deserve it to be.
Surround Yourself With Like Minded People
Be around like minded individuals. When you surround yourself with Negative Nancys or Pessimistic Pollys, you start to think the same way. Get to know people who have the same interests, who want to succeed, or are energetic about life. Single moms, you’ll feed off their positive outlook and energy. You’ll bond over commonalities. When you’re around like minded people, you’ll soar higher than you ever thought possible. Then it will become infectious. Others will want to be around you and you’ll be making a huge difference. Because you are worth it!
Tips for Single Moms to Succeed: Single moms, you are overwhelmed, exhausted, and stressed. You don’t want to remain at the same place you are right now. You have goals and dreams, but how will you be able to accomplish them?
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